Sometimes I think our natural human need for each other, for love and acceptance, gets confused as co-dependency. When someone means so much to you, when you love them so deeply, it’s often labelled as “needing” rather than “loving”. When you want to be with your best friend and lover forever, that’s love, not co-dependency. And that’s what has the potential to be really fun. I think it’s only fun when you stop being scared of the unknown, though…calling what you have what it is…not “needing” but loving, wanting, and choosing.
it only gets ugly when you stop being comfortable with what you’ve got; you get anxious and afraid, and trust starts to weaken. you need a curious balance of relaxation/acceptance and effort to make it run smoothly.
Interdependence and codependence are not synonymous. Knowing you can count on someone through whatever comes, is not the same as facilitating their problems. You can be interdependent without being addicted.
Sometimes I think our natural human need for each other, for love and acceptance, gets confused as co-dependency. When someone means so much to you, when you love them so deeply, it’s often labelled as “needing” rather than “loving”. When you want to be with your best friend and lover forever, that’s love, not co-dependency. And that’s what has the potential to be really fun. I think it’s only fun when you stop being scared of the unknown, though…calling what you have what it is…not “needing” but loving, wanting, and choosing.
it only gets ugly when you stop being comfortable with what you’ve got; you get anxious and afraid, and trust starts to weaken. you need a curious balance of relaxation/acceptance and effort to make it run smoothly.
:-)
‘You’re gonna have to face it, you’re addicted to love!’
Or possibly that Wall of Voodoo song ‘Hands of Love’?
Interdependence and codependence are not synonymous. Knowing you can count on someone through whatever comes, is not the same as facilitating their problems. You can be interdependent without being addicted.