Comments on: Make Me Choose

By: MalikTous

MalikTous — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:08:51 +0000

Cue up ‘Today’s Tom Sawyer’ (Rush)

‘Even if you did not choose, you still have made a choicxe!’

By: juniper

juniper — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 17:43:31 +0000

I sent you an email… I don’t know if you got it. In particular I’m looking for the one that says, “If we speak quietly enough, I just know we will hear each other.” It’s a picture of a landscape w. a red sun.

By: Chazz

Chazz — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 02:29:25 +0000

I can be, I suppose. I have certain things I want to try to achieve, and I have yet to find something (or one) that would take me from those. The only person who had tried to make me choose lost me, and much as it hurt I don’t regret it.

Maybe I am cold, but would have to be a very amazing person to even have a chance of me giving up my freedom. I like my ability to run.

By: flower

flower — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 03:05:43 +0000

I hope you enjoyed the clips! I have been replaying the Muppets covering Paul Simon for weeks. And I think the song is appropriate to the image, because I think bra lady is being rather seductive, no?

By: flower

flower — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 02:57:45 +0000

Living in shit was comforting for me for as long as it was possible. And the good kind of bad company is often the very best kind.

Feelings of entrapment might not reflect reality on the ground, but sometimes you have to learn the hard way.

By: orinoco womble

orinoco womble — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 12:03:17 +0000

Oh, yes, Flower–I don’t mean that anyone should stay in a demeaning, violent or codependent relationship. Sometimes indeed we have to save our souls alive. We have a proverb: Better alone than in bad company.

By: flower

flower — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 04:55:21 +0000

A piece of advice I remember from a well-known Seattle sex columnist: “If you break up, you’ll have a couple of horrible rock-bottom years, but in the long term you’ll be grateful you did it. If you stay together, you’ll spend the rest of your life like this. Just like this.” He was talking about a particularly awful compulsive relationship, but I think many of us tend to avoid breaks that are good for us because we don’t want to deal with the immediate pain or inconvenience.

But if you get yourself free you can enjoy this gem with extra heart: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dpugOJqGFb8&feature=related

And this one with glee: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aVXX6NFpcT8

By: orinoco womble

orinoco womble — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:13:25 +0000

If you see permanence as chains, is that love and adoration?
It sounds like you’ve already chosen.

By: Freedom Lover

Freedom Lover — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 19:52:15 +0000

I’m afraid one day the boyfriend I love & adore will try & make me choose…
I already know what my choice would be.
The empty space left by him, could be filled with adventure& travel
The empty space left by choosing chains, could never be filled.

By: Somerled

Somerled — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:32:05 +0000

It’s great to hear from someone who has been following Secret Vespers from the early days.

Late in 2006 I changed to a WordPress-based layout. The old design had a white background. I had to re-enter all the pages manually and date the entries to after the date of the switch. So a lot of stuff from before October, 2006 is still there, just elsewhere on the site.

The Internet archive says (I had forgotten) that the first secretvespers.com post was in April, 2006. I think that is when I got the domain name. Before that, I posted, e-ghetto style, to a server in my basement. By “server” I mean an old Pentium III machine. I don’t think I was writing as early as 2003, but I guess that’s academic now. I averaged about four hits a day before 2006. If you remember Secret Vespersthen, then you were 25% of my audience on some days.

Over the years, a few entries have quietly retired. Some of them were just in a different font from the one I use now, and I haven’t bothered to re-type them yet. Others, I don’t know… we’ve all got regrets.

If there’s a thing you’re looking for in particular, email me at somerled@secretvespers.com and if you describe it, maybe I can find it on the site for you. If you email your full name and address, I’ll mail a few postcard-sized prints to you, and a zine, too.