Comments on: Without Ever Planning to Meet

By: smatteson3879

smatteson3879 — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 21:19:43 +0000

For five minutes, every day, I am fearless enough to want that. Not the actual events. Not the loss of employment and borderline illegal acts, exactly. But the courage to move 90 degrees from my normal life and see what I have never seen before, do what I have never conceived before.

There is an allure to seeking joy outside of the sphere you live in each day.

By: Emma

Emma — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 18:05:52 +0000

Beautiful

By: InsertNameHere

InsertNameHere — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 00:29:53 +0000

Why is romance all about committing strange acts like setting animals loose (ones who were taken off the street for a reason; not to be re-abandoned there). Why is romance all about “one person” that requires no work and is met spontaneously only when an accident (getting off at the wrong stop) occurs?

It would be more helpful if people did not spend their time reading nonsensical prose online wishing for some quirky stranger to drop out of the sky, and start realizing that love is a little less convoluted. You do not need to meet spontaneously for romance. You do not need to chase cats to have a date. Sometimes love requires work. Sometimes people that you would be highly compatible are all ready in your life, our very nearly in your life (one or two connections away), perhaps in your area and accessible via online dating. Anything besides waiting for accidents to propel towards “soul mates”. For one thing this piece fails to mention which of the strangers made the first move. Neither? That doesn’t lead to love. You need to actually do something if you want love.

By: chicago son

chicago son — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 19:32:53 +0000

fills me with hope and breaks my heart at the same time.

By: hometown

hometown — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 21:04:23 +0000

This is why I love Chicago and never intend to leave.

By: it

it — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 00:04:49 +0000

bitter and dumb, you’re my sugar plum. :)

By: E

Sun, 17 Jan 2010 23:34:07 +0000

THANK YOU.

By: Tyler T

Tyler T — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 15:25:40 +0000

I’m not saying you won’t find someone who is better in places your worse, but you won’t have some Edward Cullen sweeping you off your feet if your a drug addict(get what I’m saying?). The person you’ll find won’t have the same flaws you do, but they’ll have a similar amount.

By: Kendra

Kendra — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 19:31:33 +0000

amen.

By: grey1

grey1 — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 19:23:06 +0000

This poem is alright. What it represents. The type of person you ideally want to be with, I can identify with that. I think the problem you have is not just that you haven’t found that person, but that your focus is on your disappointment.

What if more people decided to be that person, to take the focus off their disappointments and become some one who cares deeply for others. Those people would find their lives immensely more fulfilling and would in turn make life better in small ways and big ways for those around them. And then people would be drawn to them the same way people are drawn to the idealized person in this poem. And it would be a lot easier for you to find love like that.

Rather than sit in your real hurts and pain and insecurities and frustrations over and over again every single day, choose to deal with the pain, heal, and move forward and be the type of person you want to be. Live the life you always dreamed, and be the type of person you like to relate with day in and day out.

And be consistent; be that person whether it is easy or it is with difficult people.

Also note that what you look for you will find. If you are looking for the flaws they will always be there, but if you look for the treasure in people then you must often look more carefully and tread more softly, but if you look until you see, then you will find it.

Be honest, but kind to everyone; you never know who the person in your path will become to you in the future.