Have you ever fallen in love with someone who turned out to be nothing like what you expected, and found that it was just perfect? This is the fifth in a series of six installments beginning here: http://secretvespers.com/2008/07/21/pieces-part-1/
Secret Vespers
by Patrick Edwards-Daugherty
Yes. =)
Still waiting… But hopeful :)
Haha. Oh well. People I’ve felt strongly for have changed in my eyes, turned out to be less special than I thought. Turned out to be just human. But it didn’t matter. Cuz human is life and life is beautiful as it is. Every mistake, every sorrow and shit is part of life, and still worth to appreciate while you have it.
The feelings for the people have cooled off, but somehow they’re still some of the most meaningful and important people in my life. Even if they’re just human. :P
Indeed. It’s a wonderful experience to realise that your “perfect” other is just like you–fallible, human, and vulnerable. And that means it’s OK to show your own fallibility, humanity, and vulnerabe side.
They often appreciate it. Trying to be “perfect” is an awful strain.
There are no perfect people, the idea is as Platonic as any other such ideal.
I’ve plenty of friends, but I don’t expect them to be ‘perfect’, just decently acceptable. I’ve yet to find a lover I’d consider a lifemate; in any case I’m disinterested in leaving future taxpayers behind to stoke the eroding furnaces of a failing nation’s government.
I’ll be something different in my next lifetime.
Well, “perfect”. That word, and a couple others (“true” for example) I have a habit of using against their literal meaning; I say the words, but I hear “provisionally” in front. Come to think, I more often find something broken as broken “perfectly” than something unbroken as perfect.
Governments used to govern nations with growing populations. I wonder what happens when more failures are left to fewer people to pay for.
Sometimes we get not what we want, or think we should have, or expect, but what we need. It can take time and a lot of fighting and a lot of hard work to realize when such is the case and even then it’s hard to be sure. How do I know now that I’m not holding onto what I want instead of finding what I need?