Comments on: Never Change

By: orinoco womble

orinoco womble — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 08:10:46 +0000

Change is the only permanent thing.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 02:16:12 +0000

Always, always change. You can’t live your life and remain static. They’re mutually exclusive.

By: alex

alex — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 19:59:45 +0000

i don’t know about you guys but i’ve got incredible friends and we say this to each other all the time. its not that we love each other (and make no mistake, friendship is the greatest kind of love) for or in spite of our flaws and attributes its that we love each part of them because it makes up who they are, and that doesn’t change. people take up new hobbies, change opinions, grow new and more mature outlooks on life, but unless they stop being true to themselves (or never were in the first place) i belive they remain fundementally the same.

By: Kaffy

Kaffy — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 01:42:53 +0000

It’s a very broad question, isn’t it? What are we changing? Do we want to change? Is it change for the better?

I think, in this case, it’s both helpful and dangerous, depending on a lot of things. I think the main issue is whether or not your friends and you want to see a change.

I liked the comment Sophie made. “I think as long as your friends encourage you to be yourself, it doesn’t matter which way you go. After all, if they aren’t supporting you, then what kind of friends are they?”

However, I couldn’t help but think about how some friends change into things you don’t want them to change into because you originally liked them for who they used to be. Sometimes it’s sad, but in the end you realize you’ll change too and you will find new friends.

By: MalikTous

MalikTous — Sun, 01 Jun 2008 14:46:06 +0000

Growth should be change – Change the errors, but try to keep what works.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Fri, 30 May 2008 15:02:37 +0000

A lot of heartache comes from wishing others to be what they’re not- whether that means discouraging their inevitable changes or forcing changes that aren’t meant to be. The best friends are those who can accept every aspect of you- past, present, and future. And the most gifted are those who understand who you are meant to be.

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 29 May 2008 15:46:16 +0000

I love this one.

By: orinoco womble

orinoco womble — Wed, 28 May 2008 08:03:43 +0000

Reminds me of friends of mine who spend a lot of time trying to change their SO’s behaviour, hobbies etc. and then complain “they’re not the person I fell in love with.” Respect is the key, as Quin says above. Growth implies change–from within. Forced change from without is seldom welcome, and seldom lasting. Encourage your friends to grow by offering new experiences, but don’t try to play policeman or schoolmaster. Give the respect you want to get.

By: Quin

Quin — Wed, 28 May 2008 00:09:27 +0000

a friend should never try to change you, however if you are wanting to change then a friend should allow you to change, for better or for worse. then you can see for your self if it was worth it. it’s harder being the friend i suppose, who is expected to sit back and watch you change right before their eyes, into something that may not be the best, in terms of things one could be.

By: Erika2

Erika2 — Tue, 27 May 2008 19:23:31 +0000

I think change is important and inevitable. Where friends come in in this process is in reminding someone of who they are or who they are becoming. a person could get lost in all the turmoil…